Ensuring Smooth Family Transitions During the Festive Season
As Australians continue to recover from the global pandemic, many are also facing their first Christmas with a new partner.
According to Tracey Horton a lot of people are celebrating their first Christmas with a new partner and have no idea how to introduce their child to the new person in their life.
“Some people will do it well, and others will do it badly, simply because they didn’t give the introduction or the situation the care, thought and preparation that it needed,” Horton said.
“Sadly this means that many families will endure a very difficult festive season and experience heart-wrenching issues into the future.”
Horton is a world leading keynote speaker, best-selling author, thought leader, mental health expert and growth coach who delivers one on one life coaching, a range of highly popular self-help courses for individuals and advises businesses on how to better support people in the workplace.
“Introducing your child to a new partner is a significant step in any relationship and it requires careful consideration to ensure the child’s wellbeing and comfort,” Horton said.
“It is important to understand that there are some simple steps you can take to help you introduce your child to a new partner in a positive and supportive way. These steps will not only make the process easier for all, they will help to build and nurture positive relationships moving forward.”
Six steps to help everyone get along
Timing is important
“Timing really matters when introducing a new partner to the kids. Make sure the new relationship is solid and that you and your new partner are really connected, and that you feel the relationship is going to last. This is critically important so the children don’t get confused,” Horton said.
Prepare your new partner
“It is important that your new partner understands your children and has good insight into who they are and what they are all about,” Horton said.
“Communicate with your new partner. Have an open conversation with them about all of your child’s likes, personality, schooling and interests so they can understand your child and are able to relate and build a meaningful connection with them.”
Prepare your child
“It is equally important to prepare your children to meet your new partner. Have a conversation with them about your partner. Be open and let them ask questions. Assure them your new partner will not be replacing the other parent. Explain why your new partner is special to you,” Horton added.
“This helps your child to understand how the new partner will fit in.”
Make the first meeting comfortable
“Choose something easy for the first meeting. Do something relaxed that the child will enjoy for the first meeting, so there is as little pressure as possible. This gives everyone a chance to meet properly and relax,” Horton said.
“While it is important to make the meeting as easy and comfortable as possible, it is also critical to carefully monitor progress,” Horton said.
“Be attentive to everyone’s interactions. It will take a minute to make a smooth transition so that everyone has the opportunity to properly meet. Notice reactions and allow emotions to be expressed in a healthy way.”
Seek help if needed
“Introducing the children to your new partner is a big deal and something you may need assistance with. Seek help if necessary. The common denominator is you and everyone else isn’t as connected yet as you are. If you feeling uncomfortable about the idea of introducing the children to your new partner by yourself, seek out help from either family, friends or a professional,” Horton said
“This can assist to take the pressure off yourself and make things easier for everyone involved.”
About Tracey Horton
Tracey Hortin is a highly respected and well-known key note speaker, thought leader, life coach and mental health expert. Tracey is also the founder of a range of self-help and capacity building courses which are delivered online. These are designed to assist people to overcome grief, loss, trauma and other life setbacks and build resilience, reduce anxiety and improve self-esteem and self-worth.