As a mother of seven children, all of whom went through daycare at different stages of their early years, I know firsthand the mix of emotions that come with starting childcare. Add to that my years of experience running my daycare, Miri’s Kindy in the Eastern Suburbs, and I’ve seen just about every version of the daycare journey—from teary drop-offs to proud first finger paintings.
Whether you’re just starting to explore your options or you’re getting ready for your child’s first big day, I hope these insights from both sides of the gate—mum and provider—can help you feel more prepared, confident, and at peace with this big step.
- How to Settle Your Child Into a New Daycare (Without the Tears… or at least, fewer of them!)
Let’s be honest—starting daycare can be hard. Not just for your child, but for you too. I’ve cried in the car more than once after drop-off, even with my seventh!
But over the years, I’ve picked up a few practical strategies that really do make a difference:
Do “practice runs”: A few days before the official start, drive past the centre, talk about it in positive terms, and if possible, do a couple of short orientation visits. Many centres (including mine) offer “stay and play” sessions where you and your child can explore the space together without pressure.
Keep goodbyes short and sweet: Lingering can make the transition harder. I always encourage parents to develop a little “goodbye ritual”—whether it’s a hug, a high-five, or a special saying. The predictability is comforting for children.
Bring something familiar: A soft toy, blanket, or even a family photo can help your child feel connected to home while they settle in.
Communicate with educators: Don’t be afraid to share what works for your child—whether they need a bit more time in the morning, or they’re soothed by a particular song. Good daycare centres will partner with you to make the transition easier.
Most importantly, don’t feel guilty if your child cries at drop-off. It’s normal. I’ve often seen children stop crying within 2–3 minutes of their parent leaving and dive straight into painting or puzzles.
- What to Look for When Visiting a Childcare Centre (From a Mum Who Runs One!)
When I first started visiting centres for my eldest, I had no clue what I should be paying attention to beyond whether the place “felt nice.” Now, having run a daycare myself, I can tell you exactly what matters most:
Warmth over fancy facilities: Yes, it’s nice to have a shiny new playroom—but what really counts is the way staff interact with children. Are they on the floor with the children? Do they greet your child by name? That connection means more than brand-new furniture.
Safety and cleanliness: Trust your gut here. Does the centre look clean and well-kept? Are safety gates properly latched? Is food prepared in hygienic conditions? I always say: if it wouldn’t be safe enough for my child, it’s not good enough for anyone’s.
A balanced routine: Ask to see a sample daily schedule. A good centre provides a healthy mix of self-directed play, respectful routines, quiet time, and structured learning, while still allowing room for flexibility based on the children’s needs that day.
Transparency: As a mum, I want to know what’s happening with my child throughout the day. Look for a centre that communicates openly—whether it’s through an app, emails, or good old-fashioned chats at pickup. Ask how they handle incidents or illness. Ask what’s included in the fees. You deserve clear answers.
When you visit, go with a checklist—but also go with your heart. If it feels warm, nurturing, and like somewhere your child would be loved and respected, you’re in the right place.
Knowing your child is learning, socialising, and being cared for with love in a secure and trusting environment.
- Three Reasons Why Childcare is Good for Your Child (Really!)
I’ve heard all the doubts from parents (and had some myself): Will my child feel abandoned? Is it better if I keep them at home longer? Will daycare change who they are? But after seven kids and years of running a centre, I’ve seen the many ways good childcare helps kids thrive.
Here are three of the biggest:
- Social skills skyrocket
Children learn so much from being around other children. They figure out how to share, wait their turn, listen to others, and solve conflicts—all in a safe, supported space. My youngest came out of his shell in just a few weeks of being around other toddlers at daycare.
- Confidence and independence
There’s something beautiful about watching a child interact with their friends in a social setting. How special it is to watch a child learning to resolve conflict over a shared toy! How gratifying it is to watch a child stand before a group of friends and share something special about their weekend. These moments of independence and pride are priceless. They may seem small, but they are the building blocks of resilience and self-esteem.
- Learning happens naturally through play
A high-quality daycare encourages learning through discovery and curiosity. Children build early numeracy, literacy, and problem-solving skills through simple, fun activities: pouring water, sorting colours, making shapes out of playdough and following a recipe. At my centre, we follow the Early Years Learning Framework (EYLF), which ensures each activity is designed to support your child’s growth in all areas.
Knowing your child is thriving, learning, socialising, and being cared for with love in a trusting and secure environment gives you incredible peace of mind.
Come and visit us at Miri’s Kindy in Coogee.
Warm regards, Miri
Finding the Perfect Daycare in Coogee: A Mum’s Guide from the Heart of Miri’s Kindy
